Learn The Secret Methods Hundreds of Gay Men Have Discovered So You Can:
✅ Build Lasting Confidence
✅ Have The Best Dates of Your Life
✅ Never Settle Again for an Unfulfilling Relationship (or Being Single)
✅ Fast Track to the Long-Term Relationship of Your Dreams
Become magnetic to the man you most want
Be deeply wanted and desired, without having to hint or ask
Experience mutual passion and desire that keeps growing, no matter how long you've been together
Without changing how you look or who you are.
We See You...
You’re a good man with a lot to give.
But when it comes to love, something keeps falling short.
You finally meet someone you’re genuinely excited about, and within weeks you’re the one doing all the texting, all the initiating, wondering what you did wrong.
You watch him pull back while you pour more in.
You love your partner. But the last time he grabbed you and pulled you close feels like a lifetime ago.
You’ve tried dropping hints, giving more, being patient.
And still, you’re the one wanting more than you’re getting.
It’s not because you’re not enough.
It’s because nobody ever taught you what actually creates desire between two men.
What Actually Creates Desire Between Two Men
It’s not effort. It’s not communication. It’s not date nights or trying harder.
Desire is created when a man shows up fully as himself. When he has his own center, his own standards, his own life that doesn’t pause or shrink to keep the peace.
When you stop making yourself easy to keep and start becoming impossible to take for granted, everything changes. He notices. He reaches. He initiates. Not because you asked him to. Because you became someone he doesn’t want to lose.
That’s what Energetic Attraction Coaching teaches you to embody.
Rob O.
“I’m only just over a month in, but it is probably one of the best decisions I’ve ever made in myself, financially or otherwise, that I’ve ever done.”
When You Show Up and Implement Energetic Attraction Coaching You Will:
- Understand EXACTLY why you haven’t been able to achieve a THRIVING relationship that lasts
- Become magnetically attractive to the man or men you want to be with
- Know how to release fear of judgment, rejection and other insecurities that block you from asking attractive men out
- Own that you are worthy and capable of having the thriving relationship you’ve always dreamed of
- Enjoy the dating scene more than you ever have as a single man, and know you’re ready for a smooth transition into “partnered” status when you meet the right guy
- Connect with other students in the Energetic Attraction community who are growing alongside you and make with new friends and/or meet your romantic partner
“Joining Energetic Attraction Coaching has been amazing, right from the beginning. I immediately felt this huge weight lifted, and started trying things I never would have dared try before!”
Jeff M.
Rapidly Transform Your Life and Build Authentic Relationships
The Truth Is:
✅ YOU have a lot to offer in a relationship.
✅ Deep down you know you’re a great guy and a good human being.
✅ But for some reason you just haven’t been able to find the lasting Love you’ve always wanted…
And We Know The Gay Dating Scene Can Be Brutal
❌ Guys can be flakey and ghost you when you try to set up a date
❌ Lots of men might not date you because of your looks or your age
❌ Guys say they want a relationship, but then disappear after hookups
❌ Lots of men will get cold feet and leave you because they’re scared
And so on…
There are many reasons why most gay men spend their 40s, 50s, 60s, and beyond single and alone…
And we’re here to help put the odds back in your favor.
Who Are We And What Is Gay Man Thriving?
We’re Zach Bulls and Andrew Sartory, and over the last 9+ years we’ve supported thousands of gay men across the world to have the best relationships they could have ever imagined.
We founded Gay Man Thriving because we were inspired by our own magical relationship, and we wanted to help more gay men have what we have…
The kind of partnership where:
- You grow together regardless of any external highs and lows
- You can tell each other anything, and still be loved
- You get to be ALL of you and enjoy each other’s expansion
When you learn to access your own unique Energetic Attraction™…
You will become so attractive to the man of your dreams that he can’t resist being around you.
The Proof: Real Men, Real Transformations
This isn’t theory. This method has transformed the lives of hundreds of gay men — just like you.
Here’s what’s possible when you learn how to elevate your unique Energetic Attraction.
Ed spent years in a relationship where he gave and sacrificed endlessly, hoping love and appreciation would follow. But no matter how much he tried, he still felt unseen and unfulfilled. Through our work together, Ed finally let go of the belief that he had to earn love. He stopped overgiving, reclaimed his confidence, and learned how to show up as a man who naturally attracts respect and devotion. Today, in his marriage, Ed is experiencing more mutual affection, passion, and love than he’s ever felt before.
Ainge felt like he was always putting in the effort but not receiving back the love and affection he wanted. Instead of feeling valued, he felt unseen and taken for granted. After working together, he discovered his confidence and found his voice. He has learned to stop settling for breadcrumbs, and step into his true worth. Today, he and his husband are enjoying a relationship where love, effort, and devotion flow both ways, traveling the world together and feeling more in love than ever.
Ted had just gone through a painful divorce from an abusive and codependent relationship when we began working together. He had spent years not recognizing his worth and settling for treatment that made him feel small. Through our work together, he let go of the beliefs that made him tolerate mistreatment, built self-trust, and started prioritizing himself. He stopped attracting takers and started drawing in kind, loving men who truly saw him. Today, Ted is a bestselling author and coach, enjoying a healthy, balanced and thriving relationship with his husband, Tyler.
Jamie had completely given up on love — he hadn’t been on a real date in 20 years, convinced he was too old, too out of shape, and destined to be alone. Through our coaching, Jamie stopped making himself small and started dating with confidence. Within months, he met the love of his life. Today, he’s happily married and finally experiencing a relationship where he feels seen, chosen, and deeply wanted for who he truly is.
Brian had struggled with insecurity about his weight and appearance ever since coming out in his 50s. He felt invisible in the dating world, convinced no man would find him attractive. After working together, Brian let go of his self-doubt, stopped avoiding dating, and started showing up with confidence. Within three months, he met a man who would become his first real boyfriend. Four years later, they’re still together, building a love story he once believed wasn’t possible.
Michael didn’t come out until he was 70 years old. After years of struggling to meet men through dating apps and local meetup groups, he had almost given up. But he realized that his energy was working against him — acting like he had to convince someone to want him instead of showing up as someone worth wanting. Once he made that shift, he met someone in our Facebook group and is now happily married.
These men didn’t “get lucky.”
They made a choice.
They stopped overgiving, stoped waiting for love to come to them, and stopped settling for feeling unseen.
These aren’t rare cases — they’re what happens when you finally shift your energy and show up as the man who naturally and effortlessly attracts the kind of love that feels good and lasts.
FAQ's and Specifics
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The real secrets to lasting love and romance have nothing to do with:
-Your age, weight, or skin color
-Your job or financial status
-Your location
-Your house or car… and so forth
And that it has EVERYTHING to do with ENERGY, which is affected by things like:
-Inner trust and self-confidence
-Keeping your heart open
-Radical self-Love
-Transparency and vulnerability
-Willingness to learn and grow…
And most of all:
How the man feels when he is around you, and you him.
And we’ve created the MOST POTENT path for you to become the man that your most suitable potential partners will be drawn to like a MAGNET… WHILE being authentic and NOT trying to do anything weird to impress them.
We call this ENERGETIC ATTRACTION™
Whether you have zero long-term relationship experience… or you’ve been heart broken from past relationships… we guarantee you we’ve helped a man like you have a wildly successful dating and love life.
Energetic Attraction™ is For Gay Men Who:
-Are tired of being hurt from relationships (or afraid you’ll hurt someone else)
-Don’t ever want to settle for a mediocre relationship
-Haven’t given up hope on having the long-term relationship of your dreams
-Are growth oriented and want to learn what you can change to have better results (and not blame other gay men for your relationship challenges)
When you enroll in Energetic Attraction™, you will get:
-Lifetime access to Energetic Attraction™ course modules and curriculum
-Three months of weekly group coaching calls with Zach via Zoom to get any questions answered, and to learn from the experiences of other gay men (recordings available)
-Lifetime access to private Energetic Attraction™ Facebook group to ask more questions and connect with other men
-Personalized Core Energy Assessment & Debrief Session with Zach
-Surprise Bonus Trainings with Andrew
-Private onboarding call with GMT Success Specialist
This program is a FOOLPROOF program and it WILL work for you when you simply:
- Create time and space for yourself to watch trainings (about one hour/week)
- Take action – schedule dates and connect with other men the exact way we show you how
When you complete Enegetic Attraction ™ you will:
-Forever have richer, more fulfilling relationships – in the romantic department and all others
-Trust yourself more when it comes to dating (know when to go deeper with someone and when to say goodbye)
-Have a greater sense of inner self-confidence, no matter what kind of crazy shit is happening in the world
-Have access to a community of brothers who are also growth oriented and capable of forming great meaningful friendships and romantic relationships
No – there is no guarantee you will have a boyfriend in 6 months. This program is about the inner transformation you will make and skills you gain that will last you for the rest of your life. Boyfriends may come and go, but your inner confidence and ability to authentically connect with others is here to stay. And this will help you thrive in ALL of your relationships moving forward.
There are no refunds for enrollment in this program.
